If you’re like me, then you instinctually roll over to shut your alarm off and your phone then pick it up to scroll through your Instagram for a few minutes before heading to the kitchen to make your morning coffee.

Well, as I was watching some of my friends’ stories, I came across a post by Lysa TerKeurst and it is a must-read so I wanted to share it for anyone who made need to hear this!

The post was as follows:

“Never forget someone’s assumptions about you and facts about you are not one in the same.

Sometimes people get so jaded that it brings them some kind of weird satisfaction to point out what they assume to be flaws in you from afar.

They let stirred up feelings inside of them be mistaken for permission to attack and judge and reduce you down to their worst thoughts about you.

If they haven’t sat with you when the whites of your eyes turn red and leak tears, they don’t know you.

If they can’t readily share something they love about you, they don’t know you.

If they haven’t ever admitted their own flaws and insecurities and uncertainties to you, they don’t know you.

And if they don’t know you, they can’t possibly correctly discern your true intentions. So, they can’t possibly speak as if their assumptions are facts.

Chances are, they are hurting or hunting for trouble. Or they are genuinely concerned but didn’t let the Lord help them filter their words to you.

Don’t attack back. Don’t betray who you are in a moment of feeling offended.

Remember, just because someone lays something down doesn’t mean you have to pick it up.

Instead, let’s decide the cycles of hurt going ‘round and ‘round the world today will stop with us.

Let’s determine today that we will not scrutinize and brutalize others with our unknowing and incomplete understanding.

We will not be critics full of assumptions eager to point fingers.

No, we will be women more willing to uncross our arms and just get to know one another. And we will bring lots more love into our knowing from the very first hello.”

Lysa TerKeurst

I don’t know about you, but I was definitely in need of this post. We need to be strong women who stand by one another and get to know what’s behind those eyes! Let’s be intentional this week in how we interact with one another, taking time to better understand before we sit in our judgment and opinions. Know that the opinions from someone who doesn’t truly know you should hold no ground in your mind and is not an open invitation to return said opinions.

Remember, just because someone lays something down doesn’t mean you have to pick it up.